Your Beliefs Can Slam the Brakes on Your Love Life

Dating and living single can be tough and if you're having trouble attracting the right kind of partner or even attracting a date, your beliefs could be putting the brakes on your love life.

So many of us have been hurt by past relationships that a part of honestly questions whether or not it's worth getting involved again. After all, what if it happens again? Nobody wants to be rejected and nobody wants to feel they are alone in the world. It's a pretty profound dilemma..."Should I put myself out there and risk getting my heart broken again or should I resign myself to a life alone?" Honestly, neither choice sounds too appealing but what you need to examine is why it's easier to believe that the next relationship will bring heartache like the others than it is to believe that the next one will bring you decades of bliss.

My experience has been that most people carry around a lot of baggage from past relationships. There are so many fears and worries that what happened "last time" will happen again and though there is reason to shy away from the possibility of another painful break up, the simple fact is the past doesn't dictate the future. The relationship you will be entering into next will not be (most likely) with the same person you broke up with before. This is a new person with new qualities, ideas, beliefs, values, desires, etc. To project the last relationship onto this one is to immediately doom it to fail. Even though it can be hard to do, you have to stop assuming and expecting and, instead, begin seeing this relationship for what it truly is and not what you're afraid it will turn out to be.

You have to realize that the next person isn't the last one. In other words, just because your last boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife hurt you or mistreated you doesn't mean the next person you get involved with will do the same. Remember, everyone is different so it's unfair and unrealistic to generalize like so many people do.

Be open to the person you will meet next or might have already met. Give him or her a fair chance without judgments and see where it takes you. It's difficult and scary but if you ever hope to have a chance at a relationship, you must be willing to see the next person you date for who he or she is rather than what you're afraid they'll turn out to be.

A Powerful Money Prayer

Money is a compliacted issue in our society. Many negative beliefs have been attached to money and, to some extend, most people feel unworthy of having much of it. However, I would like to present a different perspective on money. One that I hope will change your mind and open you to the results of a powerful money prayer I wil share in this post.

All things are energy, including money. Money has no motives or desires. It is simply a tool that can fund wars or build hospitals. Some of us have heard the expression “Money is the root of all evil” and maybe those individuals still believe that on some level. However, this expression is incorrect. The real quote is “The love of money is the root of all evil.” It is greed that causes people to use money in disastrous ways. Once you come to terms with the idea that money is neutral…simply a tool to be used like a hammer or a screwdriver, you can begin to set aside your “issues” about having more of it.

To pray for more money, we have to first understand that prayers of supplication (begging and pleading for something) hardly ever bring results. If you come to a prayer with the attitude of “I don’t have this and I’m pretty sure I’ll never get it so please, please, PLEASE give this to me” you can expect dismal results.

Instead, you have to shift your attitude to one of power. We are all co-creators of our experience and our thoughts, feelings and words are very powerful. Speak (pray) as though you have the power to create something real in your life. Know that your words are bringing into reality your desire. Expect as strongly as you do when you go to bed at night that you will wake up in the morning that what you’ve prayed for will come. You might be thinking “But waking up tomorrow is one thing and getting more money is another.” I would like to point out, though, that you have no guarantee that you’ll wake up tomorrow; you just assume that you will. You’ve seen that every day for the past x number of years you’ve woken up and you see no reason to believe that you won’t wake up tomorrow but where’s your guarantee?

The same is true with money or anything else you wish to bring into your life. The difference, though, is how you approach the situation. Rather than assume that the money will come because you’ve called it to you, you choose to assume it won’t because it hasn’t so far. This mistake of assming that the past produces the future is what leads to so many failed prayers.

If past results truly indicated future performance, you would never have learned to walk. There was a point where all you could do was fall down each time you took a step. If you had decided that this was going to be the result each time you tried to walk, you’d still be crawling around on your hands and knees. Instead, you adapted and changed your sense of balance and there came a point when falling wasn’t the norm; in fact it became a rarity. So don’t assume that becuase money has been hard to find before that it must continue to be that way.

Now for the prayer:

Relax and release any tension in your body. Let your mind relax as well.

Imagine the exact amount of money you need or want to come into your life.

See it there

Now speak out loud these words or words similar to them- “I claim that the amount of _________(state the amount you want to come to you) is in my hands by _______ (give a specific time and date. Example- Noon on Saturday, May 9 of 2009).” Now see that amount of money in your hands. Know that it is there. Now honestly give thanks and release the idea.

Releasing means not to obsess over it or decide how it’s going to happen. Simply trust that the result will come about.

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The Living Metaphysically Talk Show

I am excited to announce that I have started my own internet radio talk show called Living Metaphysically. This show examines every day subjects such as happiness, prosperity and health from a metaphysical point of view and offers insights and techniques to help you successfully experience those aspects of your own life.

You can listen to the most recent broadcast below.

The Pictures in Your Words

The subconscious mind deals in pictures, not words. For instance, if I ask you to think of a tree, you see a picture of a tree in your mind’s eye and not the letters t-r-e-e. Think of a car and you see a picture of a car, think of a house and you see a house… and so on.

Now, the important part of this to understand is that each of these pictures has some type of emotional association to them… negative, positive or neutral. Negative words like war, crime, debt, disease, death, famine etc. conjure up negative images and these negative images trigger a negative feeling within you. Positive words like happy, love, peace, joy, family, etc. conjure up positive images which trigger positive feelings. We also have words that don’t really have images associated with them such as “the”, “as”, “with”, etc. Then we have words that do have images associated but don’t have emotional connections (tree or sidewalk might be examples).

What you need to begin doing is paying attention to the words you use when you think and speak. If you spend a lot of time using negative words, you will end up feeling negative emotions which will cause the Law of Attraction to match you up with more reasons to feel negative.

So let’s look at some examples to make this really clear. If you were to say, “I don’t want to be in debt anymore” what images come to mind? You being in debt, right? And it probably doesn’t feel too good, either. Now let’s see what happens if we switch the idea around and say, “I have more than enough money to pay all my debts”. Now what images come to mind? It’s probably something similar to you having plenty of money and feeling confident and secure…and this image feels much better, doesn’t it?

The key to creating with your thoughts and words is to use ones that generate positive images and feelings. Even though it may be “true” that you are in debt or you aren’t married or don’t have your dream home, etc. by repeating these “truths” and telling the same story over and over, you only reinforce it. To change your circumstances, you have to change your story. Start thinking and speaking about what you want to see happening and resist the urge to complain about how bad things are now. The present is only a temporary point in the play…if you can learn not to keep re-writing the same old script.

Shakespeare said, “All the World’s a stage and the men and women merely players” but I want you to start realizing that you’re not just playing a part in the play…you’re creating it. You are the writer, director, producer and star! If you don’t like the performance, change it. Write a new script with better, more pleasing thoughts and words. Tell the prop people to bring in a new set and the casting director to send you a new leading lady or man. You’re the star and all the “crew members” (the universe and its laws) are here to obey your orders. You just have to know how to talk to them…and now you know.

If you would like to learn how you can break through the barriers your limiting thoughts and beliefs place in your way, click here

Blessings,

Jason Hundley

Re-framing Success

Many people think there is a limited amount of success, happiness, money, love, etc. to go around. For instance, if Dr. Becky is successful in her practice, then Dr. James has lost some degree of his potential success to Dr. Becky. However, if Dr. James and Dr. Becky look at the number of doctors practicing in their area and compare that to the population of the city, they will see there are far more patients than either of them can see. If there are 15 doctors practicing in a city with a population of 21,000 and each of the 15 doctors have access to 1,400 patients, which is more than enough to build a thriving practice.

Instead of viewing the success of others as an indication of your impending failure, try the perspective that there is enough in the world for you and everyone else. I know it’s sometimes hard to accept that idea when you don’t have a clear view of just how vast things really are. If you’re single and go out on the town and see happy, loving couples all around you, it’s easy to assume all the great people have been taken and that means you’re doomed to live a life of solitude. If you were to take a look at a local singles website, however, you might be very surprised at how many wonderful singles are in your own backyard.

Believe it or not, someone else’s success in a particular area has no effect on your potential for success, other than to provide encouragement that it can be done. Success is something you can create rather than borrow. Instead of taking someone else’s clients or relationship, you can build your own from a completely different source but the key is in understanding this principle. What you see in front of you isn’t all there is, just like in the examples above.

In the future, try this. Instead of becoming depressed or feeling defeated when you notice someone else that has what you want, smile and say to yourself, “That’s for me! I’m going to have that, too! If they can do it, I can do it.” If you say this or something similar to it with intent behind your words, you will notice a shift in your attitude and you’ll find yourself feeling much more uplifted and optimistic and it is from this state of being you can be creative and find new avenues to your success.

The Real Reason Change is so Hard

Many people are desperate for change and yet they never seem to achieve it. It isn’t that they don’t try and it’s certainly not that they’re lazy. After all, they read books, attend classes, and visit experts but, in the end, they don’t realize their goal. So what’s going on to keep these people from getting to where they want to go?

The fundamental problem is they feel powerless. We’ve all been brought up to believe we aren’t capable enough or smart enough or worthy enough, etc. so we go to other people that we perceive as being capable, smart or worthy and we expect these people to make the change for us. We think the doctor, therapist, minister, counselor, teacher, or guru can do something to us that will bring about some fantastic transformation but the simple truth is nobody can ever change you. All change comes from within. These people might assist in the changes made by providing medication or surgical procedures that place our body in a healthier state so it can heal or providing tools and techniques to help us through a difficult or confusing time but none of them do the changing for us. In fact, all of these people have “problem” clients/patients that aren’t willing to go along with the recommendations made and, naturally, these clients/patients don’t improve very much, if at all.

The most important person you can ever believe in is you. You have the power to change your life and if you don’t see yourself as possessing that power, you will spend a lifetime chasing experts and techniques looking for the “right one” that will make all the changes for you. Ask yourself right now, “Do I have the ability, in and of myself, to make this change happen?” If you answer no, then make a list of all the reasons you don’t think you can and seriously examine them, then start changing them because it’s these beliefs that are holding you back. Only when you really believe you can accomplish your goal will any amount of knowledge or assistance be helpful to you. Trust me, I know. I used to chase information all the time. I spent 2 years looking for the “right technique” until I finally got the message that I already had everything I needed; I just had to start actually using it.

What’s the biggest lie you’ve ever been told? It’s that you are limited and incapable. You can achieve anything you want but you have to know that you can have it and that you deserve it. No matter where you’ve been or what you’ve done, you have the ability and the right to create a wonderful life and that creative process originates inside you, not outside. Looking for outside sources of permission or inspiration is a fast road to failure. After all, that’s what you’ve been doing all this time and you are any really closer to your goal? If you want a new technique that really works, try finding your source of strength, inspiration and guidance inside rather than outside. When you come from that internal source, the appropriate assistance such as books, seminars, techniques, teachers etc. will find you rather than you having to chase after them. Then, finally, the process of change can be simple.

Life is a Spontaneous Creation

Security. This one idea drives humankind to distraction. We spend countless hours in anxious turmoil pondering whether or not we will have a secure life…will I have enough money, food and a place to live? Will my children be safe in the streets and at school? All this fretting causes us to fight hard to gain a sense of security and then maintain it but there is an idea I’d like to put forth that many might not have considered: security comes from stability, stability leads to stagnation and stagnation is the opposite of living.

Everything changes. The universe is changing, nature is changing, your body is changing, and your thoughts are changing…all life centers on growth and change. Seedlings transform into flowers, caterpillars change into butterflies, and children grow into adults all as life unfolds. To seek stability is to seek lack of change. The more regimented our lives become, the less we grow. We all know people who become situated into a routine. They go to bed at the same time, get up at the same time, drive the same car following the same route, go to the same places, interact with the same people, eat the same food, watch the same TV programs, etc., etc. Over time, these people become “set in their ways” and trying to introduce them to a new idea is like trying to pull teeth. The worst part of it is that this is what so many people think they want for themselves. The average person sets forth on a path to this very destination and they do so because they live in fear of not knowing what’s around the next corner. Life has become so frightening to most of us that we actively avoid living and, instead, simply exist.

The truth is there is no such thing as security in the sense most people mean it. No matter how old you get, how long you’ve been with your company or how much money you have, it can all change tomorrow and, of course, it is this idea that has us fighting so hard to hold on to what we have. Life is a spontaneous creation, though, that is changing with every new decision. How can something so flexible, so plastic, ever be secure? Rather than exhaust ourselves trying to ensure that we have what we have forever, why not work on creating an inner knowledge that we can always create what we choose from each moment? In other words, we live in fear that we will lose what we have and never regain it instead of realizing that if we got it once, we can get it again. This is how millionaires can go broke in a bad business venture and gain it all back within a year. They realize that if they got there once, they can get there again any time they choose. This is known as prosperity consciousness and it is something all of us would gain greatly from developing because it doesn’t only apply to money, it applies to every achievement. As my sculpting teaching used to say, “Don’t worry about messing up something you’ve made. You’re the artist. If you created it once, you can always create it again”.

Developing prosperity consciousness means realizing that you are the one creating your life. Your choices lead you in certain directions and you can choose to regain anything you have lost or you can choose to have that loss be permanent. Just like the artist with his clay, you can form and re-form your life as you see fit. This doesn’t mean the desired results will come over night but if you don’t lose sight of your goal, you will most definitely achieve it.